Why Do I Have To Submit To My Husband?

What Does God Say About Submission?

What was God’s design for authority in today’s world?

How are we to respond to authority?

How come a husband is commanded to love his wife as Christ loved the church?

Why must a wife submit to her husband in order for a marriage to be successful?

I realize this topic can be controversial and my intent is to display what God’s word teaches us and not my personal opinions.

I will tell you right away that the culture we live in today does not conform to a Biblical point of view when it comes to this subject.

There is nothing wrong with fighting for women’s rights and equal treatment in society, but in marriage God designed things to work in perfect harmony.

A husband and wife should complement each other in every way.

One of those ways that a wife is commanded to complement her husband is to submit to their husband.

Submission does not mean being a slave or a doormat.

A wife is to willingly submit to her husband and husbands should never need to demand that submission from their wives.

Let me list a few verses from God’s word that give us reasons to believe a wife should submit to her husband:

For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

Ephesians 5:23

God has placed the husband in a role of authority when it comes to his wife. Another way to put it is that a husband is responsible for his wife.

A husband should never act as a dictator. And, he should never feel the need to control his wife while she willingly submits to him.

God has appointed the husband to this role and given him the burden of leading his wife in a God glorifying manner.

The reason why I call it a burden and a responsibility is because a husband cannot dismiss his duty and should he fail in his headship he will answer to God.

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

1 Corinthians 11:3

For a man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God, but woman is the glory of man. For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.

1 Corinthians 11:7-9

Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quite. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became the transgressor.

1 Timothy 2:11-14

Please, please, please do not assume there is any kind of inferiority in a wife’s status as it compares to her husband.

Submission does not equal inferiority.

Headship does not mean domination.

Christ willingly submits to his Father, but His status is equal before God.

Women are equal in value and worth to men. Both are created in God’s image.

Another way to say this is that husbands and wives are Equal, but Not the Same.

God designed men and women to have different roles in a marriage.

So, here we are at the really tough part…

What happens when a husband and wife disagree?

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